My family wants me to get married, but I want to focus more on my career. Occasionally, we experience tension because of this topic, and I'm struggling to make a decision. How can I clarify my thoughts about marriage, and how can I persuade my family?
I also wanted to get married for a while because of family pressure, but my career was a priority. Over time, my family's thoughts changed as well.
How old are you? Do you live in the same house with your family?
@camkenari I'm 26 years old, yes, I live in the same house as my family and we're struggling a bit because of the rent.
@makarnaoncesi but family may not always be more insistent on marriage. You should find what is right for you.
As a relationship expert, you should give yourself time in the decision-making process. The best way to convince your family is through open communication; you should share your feelings and goals.
Your career is as important as marriage—a major life decision. Living in the same house with family can increase confusion; perhaps you might consider establishing an independent life first. It can be challenging financially, but even a small step can change your perspective.
It can be difficult to feel like you're making your own decisions when you're living with your family. You say you're career-focused, and if you get married under this pressure, you might regret it. Is there someone you want to marry, or is it entirely about family pressure?
It's normal to feel the pressure more intensely when living with family. But jumping into discussions about marriage before finding someone is like beating water in a mortar. First, clarify your priorities instead of making a decision; if marriage is on the table right now, why is it on the table?
If marriage is on the table, is there a common point, or is the family directly saying, "you're of age, get married"? Because it's not just about marriage; when are you planning to move out, or are you planning to?
I understand that, but if being so close to your family makes you uncomfortable with their decisions, how are you going to plan an independent life? Getting married isn't a solution either; you'll just enter another cycle of dependency. I suggest you think about your priorities.
