I'm only 23 years old, we've been together for a year and a half but I never expected something like this. We're not in a very good financial situation either, we hadn't made any future plans. The test showed two lines, it's been really on my mind. In this situation, what should I focus on to make a decision? Should it be economic realism, or should I say 'we'll figure it out somehow'?
Daughter, this is a serious matter. If she were my daughter, I would first take her to a doctor. I would say not to panic until the pregnancy is confirmed because sometimes tests can be misleading. If it is true, stay calm and sit down for a serious talk with the other party.
In this case, your desire is what matters completely. No one has to say "it will somehow work out." The burden always falls on the woman. Will your partner really take responsibility? Does he have a plan to improve the economic situation, for example?
I don't really understand this when I think about it a bit more; how did you completely neglect protection? You say there’s no marriage, no future plans. If you did it considering the romantic atmosphere at that moment, I think you need to be more realistic now.
It's also important to consider the possibility of a false pregnancy test. For example, when was your last period? Are the lines that appeared faint or blurry? The first test can often be inaccurate, so it's important to get a blood test to confirm.
I went to the doctor today, and the blood test came back positive. We are really sure there is a pregnancy. I talked a bit with my partner, but we still don’t know how to plan. So honestly, I am still very anxious.
I think you need to be prepared to talk to your family even if you’re not considering a traditional marriage. Because sooner or later, they will hear about it, and that will bring its own stress. If you have marriage plans, you can also avoid neighborhood pressure.
Now that you've gone to the doctor and the situation has been confirmed, you should find an obstetrician and start the check-up process. Whether you want the baby or not is completely up to you. But as the pregnancy progresses, early tests are important for health reasons.
