A friend at the office has started to get closer to me whenever I help him. Every time, he adds new tasks to my workload, but he never even says thank you. Okay, being supportive is nice, but I'm getting tired too. What kind of approach should I take to stop this? Should I try talking to him face to face?
I've been through that too. We were dividing the work with someone, but whenever I offered to help, it ended up being, 'You're doing it anyway.' So I finally said, 'I can't keep up with my own work either' and cut it off.
Then why did you keep saying yes from the beginning? Would it have been bad if you had said no?
@bugun_degil actually, I thought it was a one-time thing at first, I didn't realize it would be ongoing 😅
@soncaykaldi cutting off is not the only solution. If there's something like this in teamwork, you need to talk it out clearly. Try explaining your point first 🤭
there is a situation of "working on behalf of someone else" here. sometimes people don't even realize it. if you speak clearly and interrupt, it will continue. but, depending on the workplace culture, don't be too direct.
It cannot be resolved without conversation.
These types usually gauge the reaction of the other person. If the boundaries are unclear, they will push harder. If the solution is conversation, how are you outside of work? Do you have a chat? Otherwise, they might go on the defensive as soon as they feel addressed 😂
I think you should draw a clear line now without personalizing the issue. For example, you can move the matter to a non-controversial place by saying something like, "This task is outside my area of responsibility." If you aren't already being sincere, I would suggest not getting into a personal discussion 🙄
This isn't a coworker, it's a live task directing board. It's people like this at a desk that tire you the most; they pass their work to you and then talk about teamwork.
@hatconene I totally agree with that. In fact, I think having a talent for task delegation is something some people are born with; you can tell just by the way they sit down at the table 🙂
@meric if you want to analyze the character from the way he sits. I'm talking about the workload, and you still looked at it like a fortune teller.
