My boss's interest in me at work is bothering me.

I had a manager like that at my old job too. At first, I didn't realize what was happening, but then they started scheduling my shifts to coincide with their own on purpose. That's when I understood there was something more serious going on. I directly set my boundaries, and they never approached me again.

How long has he/she been behaving like this? Did this interest just start, or has it always been like this?

@kahvebitmeden isn't actually new, it's been like this for about three or four months. At first, it wasn't very noticeable, but now it's seriously starting to become excessive 🙄

Why didn't you do anything at the beginning? You've been patient for three months, and now you’re disturbed? If you had said something at the start, it wouldn't have gotten this big.

In such situations, it's very important to gather evidence if conversations and actions escalate to a tangible level (for example, if they invade your personal space or use inappropriate language). If the discomfort becomes apparent, you can file a complaint with the HR department, but first, be clear about the boundaries of their behavior.

my friend experienced the same thing. she wanted a part of it to be felt more in the boss's eyes. my friend always explained her work through the team, keeping her distance. she didn’t act like a friend to anyone at the workplace 😬

that's an annoying situation, huh 🫠

But look, you're writing the question saying, "I don't want to lose my job." So, actually, when you can't clearly say stop to the boss, the fear of losing your job weighs heavily, I think. This is part of the issue 😅

I think you should directly express your discomfort politely. If they don't understand, you can inform HR about the situation. If you don't take the first step, it will always continue like this.