I have vaginal pain, but I’m really scared to see a doctor. It feels like my privacy will be taken away as soon as I sit in that chair. But it’s not getting any better this way; it’s getting worse every month. What do you think I should do? What were your experiences like during your first examination, is there anyone who managed to get through the process without embarrassment?
I started like this too, at first I was always afraid of that chair. Then a friend of mine said, ‘look, if you don’t feel comfortable, the doctor will have a hard time too.’ Thinking of it from that perspective, I overcame my shame a bit. I also went to a female doctor the first time, which made it easier.
Well, I went to university for the first time too, it’s not that bad. The doctor is already used to such things; after all, they’re looking out for your health. Prioritize your health over privacy. You’ll relax over time.
But here’s the thing: protecting your privacy is in your hands. You can choose a female doctor. But you’ve been the one suffering for months. If you’re avoiding going to the doctor out of shame, whose fault is it that the problem is getting worse?
Is the vaginal pain recurrent, or does it occur during intercourse? If it’s recurrent, it could be an infection; if it started after exercise, it might be a muscle spasm. However, an examination is necessary. Doctors are trained in these confidentiality matters. It’s important to clearly express yourself.
You’re right, it’s been like this for a while, but the pain definitely gets worse every month. Even though she’s a female doctor, I still haven’t been able to go. I keep entering the appointment system and canceling at the last minute. Maybe I should prioritize talking to the doctor, what do you think?