I can't get the bag to appeal, they say it looks masculine

Last time I went shopping with my girlfriend. I chose a coat for myself, and she said, ‘This looks too masculine, let’s find something else for you.’ I said okay, and we looked at other models. I mentioned that the price was reasonable, and this time she said, ‘It’s very low quality.’ In the end, we left without buying anything. So now I can’t find anything that suits my style when I’m with her. Is this normal? What would you do?

I think criticizing your partner’s outfit is a whole different dimension. Why was she so bothered about her coat? Something similar happened with a friend of mine, and then we realized that she was consciously trying to change her style :slightly_smiling_face:

Is he/she acting this way just towards you, or does he/she usually interfere with everyone? For example, is he/she like this with his/her own friends too?

@cokdaseyapma actually not for the first time, generally he always has an opinion about clothes. but he doesn’t nag like this about other topics :grimacing:

@yazkenari I disagree, after all, how you appear from the outside can matter to both of you when you’re with someone. Maybe that coat just didn’t suit you, let’s not immediately assume bad intentions :sweat_smile:

These kinds of things might be related to the power balance in the relationship. If they are constantly interfering with your decisions, they might try to control other issues in the future. Try to have an open conversation. :face_with_open_eyes_and_hand_over_mouth:

I don’t think that’s normal. I won’t let anyone choose my coat.

It seems like there’s a clear issue. My ex used to start with little things like this too - don’t go somewhere, wear this color, etc. At first, I thought they were insignificant, but then I realized they were quite controlling. So I think it’s best to clarify this from the start, it will put your mind at ease.

You say the price is reasonable, but they say it’s low quality. So was it really a very cheap and shabby coat? Maybe it was bad, but it sounds like they dismissed everything you chose right away.

Why did you let it get so messy? Here, take your coat and go. I didn’t even understand the argument. I think you’ve stretched it out way too much :grimacing:

Is it just you that gets so involved, or is he generally this detail-oriented? For example, how would he react if someone made a comment about his clothes? He might not like it because he thinks it doesn’t suit his style, but you also have your own fashion sense; can you find a middle ground?