My male colleague, who does the same job in the office, got a raise, but I hesitate to have such a conversation with the boss. There are constant digs disguised as jokes at the workplace. I believe I'm working harder than the men, but not being able to bring this up makes me sad. How do you think I should approach this?
I think this situation is very common. Men seem to be more comfortable expressing themselves. When I first started working, I was hesitant to ask for a raise just like you. Once I found the courage to do it, it became easier every time 😅
Honey, this is your right after all. Your male colleague asked for it and got it. You should talk calmly and nicely, why are you hesitating? Throwing shade is a separate issue, your request for a raise is a different matter.
But did you ever ask about the quality of your work before requesting a raise? Your male colleague might be getting a raise not necessarily because of discrimination, but perhaps your performance isn’t being noticed. I think you should look at the situation objectively before blaming the boss.
If jokes that involve making snide remarks at the workplace have become a regular occurrence, this can already be considered mobbing according to the Labor Law. However, the demand for a raise is a completely separate issue. It would be healthier to arrange a meeting without mixing the two.
Let me add something, my male colleague and I are already in the same position. We have no performance difference; in fact, I think I work extra hours because of the mistakes he makes. But he meets with the boss more often because he acts all fatherly.
I think there might be some favoritism or background connections here. You mentioned he "acts like a nice person," maybe he has some special arrangement with the boss. Oh, that would be really ugly, but everything is possible in this world.
