I have something to say, but it might seem strange. My friend is constantly messaging my girlfriend on social media. I'm uncomfortable with the messages because they don’t tell me everything, and I’m starting to suspect they’re hiding something. My friend says, 'We just get along well.' But what if it’s more than just good intentions? What would you do in a situation like this?
I've experienced the same thing; in the end, I parted ways with my partner. My friend always said, 'We're like siblings,' but later I found out they had been meeting up on their own. If it doesn't feel right to you, I think you should pay attention to that.
I'm sorry, but it seems a bit paranoid. What did the girl say? 'We just get along well.' Your girlfriend doesn't seem to be hiding anything either. Maybe thinking of them side by side reflects your insecurities? 🙂
In such situations, the first thing that usually comes to mind is either jealousy or a lack of communication. I would say it's important to avoid jumping to conclusions without asking about the communication. Did you sit down one-on-one and share this discomfort openly? 🤭
Let me add that I told my girlfriend, but she acted like I was taking it personally and said, 'if it weren't for you, we wouldn't be talking anyway.' My friend, on the other hand, said, 'I'm writing to get to know your girlfriend, I have no other intentions.' But I can't understand why they talk so often.
The feeling of "what are they writing when you’re not around" really creates paranoia in a person. Especially when they’re chatting directly with each other instead of with you, it feels like you're missing something. If it’s not leaving your mind, then it really needs to be discussed.
I think your girlfriend doesn't understand the limits of your intimacy. Sometimes guys exaggerate the whole 'getting along' thing in a very innocent way, not realizing it's bothering you. Make it clear, otherwise she won't get it on her own 🙄
What exactly does your friend talk to your girlfriend about so often? I mean, what do they usually message about? Do they ever mention you? Did you ask this in detail?
