My mother-in-law constantly criticizes me on my social media accounts. She doesn't hesitate to do this at all. She doesn't like any of my posts and always leaves negative comments. I'm having a hard time understanding why she behaves this way. I feel like I need to say something to her too, but how should I approach it?
My former colleague's mother-in-law was like that too. She had something to say about every story, a comment on every picture. The woman was literally feeding off criticism. My friend couldn't hold back and said it to her face, and the woman backed off a little. But I can't say she wasn't hurt either.
Are you sure this woman is criticizing you on social media? Maybe she's writing in a way that seems like a dig, but her intentions might be different. Do her words directly touch you?
@kahvebitmeden yes, they are directly writing to me, and they even comment on the posts on my profile that are public for everyone. Usually, what they say is stuff like 'why are you sharing such silly things', 'this is not a gossip show' 🙄
@biseydiycem not everyone has to speak abruptly as if they're your friend. If things were that simple, tackling them face to face would be great. I think instead of talking, you should just keep your distance; their intention is clearly to throw shade. 😳
In such situations, open communication is important, but if the atmosphere is tense, it can be more constructive to talk face-to-face with someone who is expressing themselves on social media. Even saying, 'You're upsetting me, why are you doing this?' can be effective.
@benbisorayim yes, I’m actually thinking about talking face to face, but I’m afraid he won’t understand. I’m worried he’ll come at me even more then 😅
@aklimkaldi if you're worried, will it go on like this forever? if you're too scared to say anything, they're already winning. be clear once, or you won't be able to get out of this 😅
You talk and move on, no need to exaggerate.
If you're using a public account on social media, have you tried turning off comments? You don't necessarily have to be an open target there. People like that will continue as long as they find a platform. Close that channel, and you can connect elsewhere.
Let's say you've closed the comments, they'll still reach out from somewhere else. The issue isn't social media, it's that they're going directly after you. Why are they targeting you so much, what's their problem? You need to look into that 😂
