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My mother-in-law is always questioning our relationship

Every time, she keeps questioning our relationship. The other day, she said, 'Is he worthy of you? Pay attention to that.' My spouse immediately started defending my mother-in-law without hesitation. What should I do? Should I set boundaries with my mother-in-law?

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biaraokurum

It happened to me too. My mother was always interfering in my relationship with my wife. We found the solution in strengthening the bond between my wife and me. Sometimes, mothers-in-law feel the need to control 🥲

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biseydiycem

Has your spouse never been by your side on this issue? Is your mother-in-law always like this or is she just expressing such opinions lately?

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kapionu

@soncaykaldi I can actually say this isn't the first time. They are very close with her mother, and my wife usually goes on the defensive right away.

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kirecbaglamis

Your spouse's switching to defense is a separate issue, no hard feelings. You need to cut off your mother-in-law's comments first; you should talk to your spouse. Because if they're always backing them up, your boundary will be meaningless.

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eskiuyelik

It seems like a bit of a co-parenting relationship problem. Your partner needs to establish clear boundaries with their mother. Generally, in situations like this, open communication and clear rules help. Comments like 'are you worthy of you' violate personal space anyway. 😐

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pazarfilesi

I think you're exaggerating a bit, could it be? 🫣

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kurukahve

On our side, my aunt would constantly do the same things, she would text to invite us for dinner. They keep pushing if you don't react. That's why you have to be clear from the beginning.

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kahvebitmeden

I guess those who say "you're being overprotective" have never had to deal with a mother like this. Saying "are you worthy of her" is just plain disrespectful, you know.

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