My fiancée occasionally has pimples on her skin; it’s a natural thing. But during our last meeting, her mother-in-law handed her a pharmacy bag and said, ‘They say this is really good, you should give it a try.’ The guy turned bright red from embarrassment, and I immediately changed the subject. Why would someone imply things like that? Is she obsessive or what? Do you think I should intervene, or just ignore it? But my fiancée was really upset.
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7When you mentioned it, it directly reminded me of the hair comb my mother gave to my fiancé. She had said, ‘Your hair is falling out, you should try this.’ I laughed at the situation back then, but my fiancé was pretty upset. I think you need to talk to your mother-in-law, otherwise it will keep going on.
How many times has this happened? I mean, is this the first time they’ve said something like this or is it a general habit of theirs?
@kahvebitmeden actually didn’t do it for the first time, they had said things like “it’s said to be good for your face” before. My fiancé was avoiding the topic. It doesn’t happen often, but there’s a comment about it in every meeting now.
@kirmizikazak it’s wrong to take sides in matters like this. She is clearly not speaking with bad intentions; she is thinking of her son’s well-being. If you’re engaged, you need to know how to manage this.
The physical situations between the mother-in-law and the child are generally a sensitive point. Such comments, often made with good intentions, can negatively affect self-confidence. You can suggest to your fiancé to express that they feel uncomfortable in an open and kind way. It’s important to resolve the issue without escalating it.
I think you’ve exaggerated the question a bit because what did the woman imply? She directly gave something for the skin; if it were an implication, it would have been comments like ‘why is this happening, are you clean?’.
don’t interfere. turn a deaf ear.