I gained some weight and it really shows, I was practically gliding in my old photos... Now I'm hesitant to share anything on social media. But I want to love myself with how I am right now, I don’t want to care about what people think. Do you think I should share myself as I am, or should I keep quiet for a while?
I don't think you should share it at all. Once people get fixated on something, they won't let go. Especially, they'll probably compare it to your old photos and say something. You're already a topic in the neighborhood, and they're going to spread it all over social media.
I know from the friend group, if you don't share, people talk even more. They're commenting things like, 'The girl is really lost, she must be feeling bad,' and so on. Can you remove this? That's the issue.
But if you're so hung up on this, it doesn't seem like you're accepting it. If you want to love yourself, first be at ease with yourself, and don't be so affected by others' reactions. Otherwise, even if you share, nothing will change.
The main issue here is related to body perception. The problem is more about how you perceive social pressure rather than social media. If you really want to regain your confidence, you need to start this with an internal change. You might even consider talking to a professional.
There are beautiful points, but it's not easy to completely ignore people. On top of that, my old friends are still praising my physique, which stresses me out. I'm just not sure about my thoughts.
So, have you ever thought about doing any sports, or maybe changing your diet? I mean, perhaps if you get a bit active during this process, it might ease your confusion about social media too 🤷♀️
My daughter, those old photos are not ideal anyway; do people really think being that thin is healthy? You might be a bit rounder now, but if someone talks to you in a way that hurts you, you shouldn't be friends with them at all. Don't put yourself down.
It seems like there's something else going on here. Isn't it strange that the praise from your old friends stresses you out this much? Maybe they're a bit uncomfortable with the changes, but they're presenting it to you as if it's goodwill. Your feelings might be right.
Actually, this can happen to anyone; weight changes are completely normal. But if you share and relieve yourself, most people aren't even making as big a deal out of it as you are. Just leave others to their own devices.
