I lost 15 kilos in the last 6 months, everyone notices the change and congratulates me, but when I look in the mirror, I still see the ‘old me.’ When do you think this lack of confidence will go away? Or is the problem all in my head?
It’s not just a matter of self-confidence for me. It’s a bit odd that even after losing 15 kilos and people congratulating you, you’re still not satisfied. Maybe it’s a situation stemming from the past or some other standard you’ve set for yourself. I suggest you think about that.
In such situations, mental and emotional acceptance is more important than physical change. A body image disorder should be considered. Seeking psychological support or exploring this feeling with a therapist will clarify things for you. The issue of the ‘old you’ in the mirror is a very familiar situation.
I experienced the same thing. I had lost 10 kilos and everyone was saying, ‘How did you do it?’ but I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror. I went to a psychologist and learned that I had issues with body perception. Now I don’t stop either my workouts or my therapy.
Just do this: go for a professional photoshoot for visual motivation, you’ll see the change more clearly. Then, have an analysis with a dietitian to see if you might have reached the weight you were thinking of. Maybe your actual goal is something different.
So let me be clear, we men usually look at external change, not the details. But your inability to capture that inner peace seems a bit like an issue you’ve blown out of proportion in your head. Maybe that old chubby version of yourself affected you in a different way, I’m saying.