My girlfriend is a bit weird; she loves eating out, but I’m left with no money in my pocket. I’ve kept quiet about it, but I’m starting to think it seems like it’s going to get me in trouble at some point. Still, I don’t want to say anything to her about it.
I had a similar experience, my ex-girlfriend always wanted to go to expensive places outside. At first, I managed it, but then it really became tight. You need to talk, or she’ll get used to it ![]()
How long has it been like this? Has he/she always acted this way or did it start later?
@iki_dakika It’s actually been like this for a long time, I didn’t care much at first, but now it’s starting to get to me.
But you obviously didn’t talk at all at first. Isn’t it a bit strange for you to suddenly feel uncomfortable?
Now, here’s the thing: budget management is an important topic where balance is crucial between couples. Continuously yielding to expenses without discussing can harm the relationship at some point. You need to clearly say when you’re feeling constrained.
I’ve seen this title somewhere else, the same issue keeps coming back: either be clear from the beginning, or don’t let it come to this point ![]()
I think this should end. It’s clear there’s a mismatch.
I don’t think the issue is just loving to eat out alone. What’s important is how you approach spending. If you’re not spending as freely as he is, it can create a lot of stress for you. As long as you don’t openly say “I can’t do this,” it will continue like this. Plus, your pocket will burn, and he won’t even realize it.
Have you ever thought about the source of their spending? Are they spending their own earned money or are they piling it onto you? If it’s the latter, that’s where the real problem lies ![]()
When it comes to bills, it feels very straightforward when we act romantically. Without talking about who wants what, who pays what, and who hides what, everyone seems to be right.