I just found out that my husband is meeting up with his old friends, do you think it’s a problem?

I think it's natural to feel strange, but you can speak very clearly. Ask why they said this at the last minute. So don't shout or anything, just ask calmly. It might be because they're busy or they might have forgotten; we need to get their explanation first to say anything for sure 😬

To be honest, you seem to be blowing it a bit out of proportion. After all, they are old neighborhood friends; if it were something that secretive, would he mention it? Does he have to report every time he texts or meets up? I think it's important not to suffocate each other.

Such things are related to relationship dynamics. If your partner sees their friends as part of a completely different life, they might avoid sharing details with you. This doesn't necessarily mean they're hiding anything. However, the moment you feel a lack of trust, it wouldn't hurt to express this openly to them; I recommend doing so.

You are absolutely right, I think I got a bit tense. What made me suspicious was that it seemed like he hadn't talked to these friends in years. He never mentioned them before getting married. Now, their frequent messaging has caught my attention. Maybe I'm just being a bit sensitive.

But you said they haven't talked for years, and that's where I got a bit stuck. It seems like this meeting plan is either recent or they got close again for some other reason. So, these things can sometimes start out very innocently, but other things might come up over time. I think it's helpful for you to pay attention to the details.