My spouse has been very distant towards me for a few months now. We don’t talk as much as we used to, they constantly use work as an excuse, and spend a lot of time on their phone. When I ask directly, they say ‘it’s nothing,’ but I don’t feel at ease at all. Could they be cheating, or is it really just work stress? How can I be sure?
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5I don’t think it’s something to overlook that he’s spending so much time on his phone. Did he use to do this before, or is it a new situation? Infidelity often reveals itself through small details like this. Observe for a while longer, but if it doesn’t sit right with you, you should clearly address it.
Is he grumpy when going to work in the mornings, or is it just that he has such a cold demeanor around you? Because there is a difference between someone using work as an excuse and genuinely withdrawing because of work. I’d suggest paying attention to how he treats other people around him too.
So, have your behaviors changed at all during this time? For example, are you asking more suspicious questions, or have you been a bit distant? While complaining about indifference, sometimes we can unintentionally distance ourselves a little too.
Your spouse’s withdrawal and cold demeanor may be a red flag, but it wouldn’t be accurate to assume it means infidelity. In such changes, the most important thing is the nature of your conversations. For instance, if they always shut down the topic when they want to talk, seeking counseling could be beneficial. It’s possible to overcome such burdens as a couple.
Let me update you: Yes, I’ve been complaining a bit more for a while now, I guess. I’m listening to the issues at work, but the request to spend more time with him might have been too much. Still, the phone situation seems odd because I often see him changing the password next to me.