I can't believe what my partner said in the protection speech

Sexual Health & Privacy
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I noticed that when my girlfriend and I got closer, she wasn’t being careful enough about protection. Today, she said something ridiculous: ‘If you eat garlic, the bacteria in it will protect you.’ So now what bothers me isn’t just her lack of knowledge, but how relaxed she is about such a serious issue. How do you talk about this topic? Can serious matters be taken so lightly?

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This garlic topic is kind of funny, but honestly, it seems like your partner has zero seriousness about protection. If you can’t explain the truth and convince them, I think a dispute could arise. Communication is important, but some things also become your boundary.

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Oh come on. What is garlic? Are you serious about this?

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“What do you do when someone says ‘garlic is a natural antibiotic’? I would laugh.”

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@camkenari you say communication, but if the guy is spouting nonsense about a scientific topic like this, can it be solved with just talking? I think you are being too soft.

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I think this is ignorance, not comfort. People fill themselves with such made-up information because they are embarrassed to ask. If you want to continue, the clarity has to be in your hands.

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@uykuarasi this isn’t the first time, actually, he was saying stuff like “nothing just happens” before too, and as I keep insisting I’m serious, he brushes it off with these kinds of loose comments.

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Proper protection is ensured through regular check-ups and scientific methods. Condoms, birth control pills, or any precautions should not be taken alone without a doctor’s recommendation. I suggest having a serious conversation and consulting a specialist if necessary.

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The garlic situation has already blown out of proportion, but the part about “nothing will happen just like that” is even more concerning. This indicates that they completely fail to understand the logic of protection. If they aren’t taking the matter seriously, it seems they aren’t considering your health as a partner either. If they’re not even open to expert opinions, it will be hard to continue. What was their reaction when you made it clear that this is serious?

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If they have such a relaxed attitude, you need to ask, “What kind of solution are you suggesting then?” I mean, do they really rely on garlic, a calendar calculation, or what? You need to truly understand what they are counting on. After that, you should draw a serious line because this is putting your health at risk.