Last week, I attended the opening of a new hair salon, and I felt everyone scrutinizing me closely. Suddenly, when I got up in my chic outfit, the top of my dress became a bit slippery, and everyone looked. I couldn’t stop thinking, did they find it interesting or did they not like it? Can a hair salon opening really go like this? I mean, what do you do there?
Why are you so tense about this? ![]()
I get stressed in places like wedding halls, did you say a hairdresser opening? They really scrutinize people there. Just like you said, when the clothes are a bit revealing, the stares increase, I’ve experienced that a lot.
“It seems like it was something like that, but what were you wearing? Was it really that over the top?”
@yazipsildim honestly, it wasn’t an exaggeration; it was a thin fabric, loose-fitting dress. It looked stylish, but I couldn’t feel comfortable since my friend said it “draws too much attention.”
@aklimkaldi people are not satisfied with their own lives, so they make time to examine others. Don’t feel the need to look for issues in yourself; that’s just the culture of that environment.
@pazardandondum what you call the culture of the environment is actually normalization. I think the glances are everyone’s way of measuring ‘status’ in some way. It’s not completely about clothing.
You already understand, your dress is eye-catching, and your friend has warned you about it. Choosing a basic outfit is a safer bet without getting into trouble.
Judgments based on dressing are related to gender roles. The expectation for women to dress “appropriately” in every environment is a form of control. If you felt that they did something wrong to you, it must be true.