The hairdresser questioned my relationship while doing a skincare treatment

I was getting a facial at the salon, and while one of the employees was working on me, she started questioning my personal life. She told me I looked stressed and asked how I might get through it. When I said I didn’t have a partner, she said, ‘Maybe you’d be happier if you started a relationship.’ I mean, is this really a type of advice that’s offered nowadays? What kind of environment is this? Have you encountered things like this too?

What audacity is this really! You went there for skincare, not for therapy or relationship counseling. What right do people have to question others’ private lives? Honestly, women should be more respectful towards each other. Is there some rule that everyone must have a partner?

But maybe their intentions aren’t really bad. My hairdresser once told my mom, ‘Women keep their skin glowing for the man they love.’ Maybe they thought it was due to stress? :thinking:

@mahrem_saf was very insistent, saying that when a person has someone by their side, they become stronger and all that. This isn’t the first time he’s said it.

But why did you stay silent then? You say it’s not the first time, so it seems it’s not something unusual. If you’re uncomfortable, either you should have reacted there or you won’t go again. It’s easy to not say anything and then complain :grimacing:

It’s actually a bit about that line in between. In aesthetics, sometimes there’s an attempt to establish a close bond with the client, but private life involves sensitivities. One must act professionally. If you’re uncomfortable, clearly express this situation. Just say, ‘I prefer not to discuss these topics,’ and if they don’t understand, walk away from there.

Oh dear, you are so right. When my hairdresser once asked me, ‘Don’t you have a fiancé yet?’ I really felt incomplete. Even that little question had shattered my confidence. It’s a terrible feeling, I understand you.

@ters_kose you really haven’t stopped, can everyone insult like you to your face? Everyone reacts differently, maybe they just froze in that moment, who knows?

I think this is how these women project onto each other. Comments like this aren’t usually made about men. Perhaps she empathizes in a slightly different way, but in the end, we don’t know her intentions :flushed_face:

@erkek_bakisi this isn’t empathy, it’s outright judgment. Commenting on people’s loneliness doesn’t qualify as empathy. Everyone should just mind their own business.