We argued over salary negotiations, who is right?

Education & Career
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1

I find the salary offered at my new job a bit low and I wanted to negotiate. But my partner said, ‘how much more do you want to earn, it’s already too much,’ making me feel belittled rather than supported. Am I being too sensitive, or did they really make a comment that crossed my boundaries?

2

I think your partner was being unfair. When I started my new job, I also found the salary low, and on top of that, my family reacted by saying ‘you found a job, what more do you want?’ But I negotiated and got the amount I wanted; I didn’t listen to anyone. After all, if you don’t speak up, how will they know what you deserve?

3

I think there’s something else going on here. Why is your partner so interested in your salary? I mean, saying “you’re not spending it anyway” is kind of weird. Are you subconsciously covering your own expenses? Think about it :grimacing:

4

What kind of logic is this? What do you mean by how much more do you want to earn? I really don’t understand; everything has become so expensive. The idea that you don’t spend is complete nonsense. No one can tell you what to spend.

5

Actually, this salary negotiation is something every company sees as natural. Here, your partner may have wanted to comfort you a bit but might have chosen the wrong words. But remember, asking for what you deserve shows neither greed nor is it wrong. Keep defending your rights with confidence.

6

Let me add this too, my love speaks a bit too directly about such things. But do you think it crossed a line if it seemed like she was really belittling it? I’m honestly not sure about the impression I got. I’ve started to think about it more now.

7

I’ve heard that when starting a new job, it’s better not to question the salary too much, as it can create a bad impression. I wonder if your girlfriend thought the same? I believe there shouldn’t be any tension between you two over salary and work.

8

Who said that it would create a bad impression? On the contrary, negotiating is a sign of professionalism. If they thought the salary was low, I don’t understand why they bluntly say ‘you’re not even spending it anyway.’