Yesterday, I sat by the window on the minibus. A man came in the middle of the road and told me to get up. He yelled, 'You need to sit up front, get up!' without even asking politely. I was very embarrassed but didn't get up. The other passengers remained silent as well. What should be done in such a situation? How to handle verbal discomfort without crossing the line? Am I overreacting?
Things like this didn't used to exist... Everyone getting on the minibus would show a bit of respect to each other. Now everyone just says 'me,' feeling entitled. This rude behavior is really shameful. I think you've done the right thing by not getting up; after all, that's the spot you chose. If asked nicely, fine, but it shouldn't be like this.
Excuse me, but can I ask you something: Have you seen this guy before? Is he someone you keep running into on the minibus route? 😅
@merakli_kadin No, I haven't seen it before. But it didn't really have a normal demeanor, its conversations were very strange. It was communicating by constantly shouting.
I think you made a mistake too. If you had clearly answered "No, I'm not leaving" right from the start, maybe they wouldn’t have dared. When you stay silent, people tend to push more. You could have stood your ground a bit more.
The statement 'a man’s place is here' actually points to a societal issue. Such remarks can legitimize sexist attitudes in the use of public spaces. When there is a constant silence, this kind of behavior continues. In such situations, seeking support from those around you and informing the minibus driver about the situation can be a solution.
Something similar happened to me. I was sitting in the back seat, and someone said to change places or something. The elderly woman next to me also encouraged me by saying, 'Go sit somewhere else.' Sometimes public transport is the scene of such ridiculous events. But like you said, it's most logical not to get up. Otherwise, it never ends.
@toplum_analizcisi Is this really a situation that needs to be blown out of proportion? Maybe the guy was in a bad mood or something else. I think it's excessive to create a social issue just because he yelled.
People who scream like this are generally either dealing with psychological issues or think they can find their way by trying to scare someone. What you did is right; you definitely should not move. Otherwise, they'll do the same thing to someone else this time 😮💨
