We only have a month left until our wedding, but my fiancé still consults his mother about everything. For example, today he went suit shopping with her without telling me. He got what he wanted, but I had no idea during that process. This situation makes me a little sad. It may not be a big deal, but it feels more like a joint decision-making process with his mother rather than between us. Is this a normal habit?
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7my ex-fiancé used to do the same, always going by what his mother said. I eventually left, because that usually doesn’t change 
How old are you, and do you live in the same house and stuff?
@soncaykaldi 29 years old, we live in different cities but my fiancé lives with his mother.
I think it’s wrong to wear things like that during the engagement period. The wedding hasn’t even happened yet; maybe he just didn’t want to tire you out? 
@kirmizikazak yes, but such a relationship happens between two people; it’s not healthy to be influenced by one’s mother in everything. It’ll only get worse after marriage.
Now, it’s important to interrupt. If your fiancé is constantly tying his decisions to his mother, it may become difficult to establish an independent relationship dynamic in the future. Clearly express your discomfort.
The topic is very overly specific, but has everyone written as if they’re just getting divorced? Maybe the guy really just took the easy way out.