I was negotiating my salary for a new job. I mentioned the figure I wanted in the meeting, and I even noticed that the boss seemed a bit surprised, but in the end, they agreed. When I got home, I told my girlfriend about it, and instead of the support or pride I was expecting, she said, âYouâre exaggerating; youâre not worth that much.â My morale hit rock bottom. Is it because I stood up for my worth that she reacted this way? Or am I really exaggerating? Iâm trying to understand how it looks from the outside.
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6I donât know, but have you sat down and thought about the effort you put in before talking about this salary? You get up in the morning, go to work, maybe doing tasks you donât even like. That salary is your reward. If your partner canât see this, I think the problem isnât with you, itâs with them 
But why did your partner say that? Has anything similar happened before? Or is this the first time? It felt really strange, because I think if you give a bit more detail, weâll understand better.
@dedikoducu is actually not doing this for the first time, they usually donât show support in such matters.
@mesafe_emekci donât you think youâre being a bit exaggerated? Maybe the girlfriend really thought the salary issue was too high and thatâs why she said it. I wish people wouldnât immediately jump to âthe problem is with the girlfriendâ 
From an HR perspective, companies make salary offers based on the employeeâs skills and market equilibrium. If they offered you that salary, it means you deserve it compared to those around you who are âdoing.â Your partnerâs comment seems unnecessary and destructive.
@atismaci yeah, thatâs true, but her boyfriend is really putting her down here. Is it a healthy approach in a relationship to say âThis is all youâre worthâ regardless of the salary amount? A partner should support, not hinder.