I’ve been with my girlfriend for a short time, and honestly, because of the romantic scenes I’ve seen in series, I’ve started to expect a bit more from her. But she seems more natural, even a bit indifferent at times. For example, she celebrated my last birthday with an ordinary meal. Am I too much of a dreamer, or should romance be important in relationships like this?
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9My ex was like that too. She just said ‘happy new year’ in a very plain way and moved on. After a while, I realized that romance meant something to me, but it was different for her. Your love languages may actually be different; just pay a little attention.
Actually, this situation is somewhat common. We are exposed to the loves in TV shows a lot, and we make comparisons. But real people are usually not that perfect. Maybe they did something special in their own way, but your expectations were higher 
I think you’re being a bit unrealistic here. You felt his birthday was ordinary, but maybe that was all he could do? Before you sit back and judge what he did, think about it sincerely. You can’t set up a relationship like a fairytale.
People have different ways of expressing love. There is something we call ‘love language.’ One person shows their love through romantic gestures, while another expresses it through everyday support. Don’t get caught between expectations and disappointment without discussing it with them 
Let me update you: It actually feels like I haven’t asked for much. For example, my friend’s boyfriend organized a special celebration. I’m expecting things like that too, but I don’t know if I’m comparing too much.
There is a serious balance of effort here. It is very important for partners to invest time and effort in each other. If it only stayed at dinner, this could indicate that you are neglecting your needs a bit. Have a clear conversation and say, ‘I want this!’
Now, let me say this from a male perspective. Maybe he didn’t want to seem forced, hesitating to act like a reluctant romantic. So, it may not be indifference, but rather a desire to give something more genuine.
Honestly, it feels strange to think this in such detail. I believe the most important thing is peace. Excessive romanticism seems forced; if it maintains its naturalness, it’s more valuable. In our neighborhood, people don’t ruin their marriages with these kinds of things
Comparing yourself to what your friend has experienced is what tires a person out. I can imagine the disappointment you felt when you returned home after such a plain dinner on your birthday evening. But if you can really figure out why you feel this way, you’ll understand it more comfortably.