My patron constantly goes to one of my colleagues, which sets him apart from the others. Sometimes I try to do something too, but I always feel like I’m behind. What should I do in such a situation? I think it’s unfair, but I don’t know how to express it.
Adam has found his favorite, what are you going to do?
I had the same situation, they were overly favoring a coworker of mine. But after a while, their attention switched to someone else; it’s usually not permanent.
Let’s be a bit more realistic; maybe that friend really is doing better work? You say it’s unfair, but are you saying that based on the visible performance?
If you want to express this in a corporate manner, you can’t just start a conversation directly about ‘equality.’ You need to clarify your contribution at work first and prepare examples to discuss. It’s very difficult without concrete data.
Actually, let me add to what you said, I admit that my colleague is faster than me on certain topics, but in other areas, it feels like I’m more detail-oriented. Still, it seems strange that he always has the advantage.
@hatconene you’ve been pressing on by saying it’s so realistic, but if there’s a sense of injustice, there must be a reason for it. Some things are related to balance.
@meric you’re saying balance, but ultimately, here the measurement is based on performance and results. Not everyone can be equal in everything anyway.
Does this preference of your boss affect you, does it reflect in your work? I mean, if this favoritism creates a clear difference in your opportunities in task distribution, then it can be discussed. If it only remains a personal perception, then getting involved is harder.
Maybe they have connections outside of work. Some bosses act based on personal whims rather than strictly on job performance when favoring someone. In other words, they’re choosing the person, not the work.
Maybe you have your own way to express yourself and strengthen connections outside of work. They might not only be looking at work performance; in such cases, building rapport with superiors is also part of the game. But are you sure you’re trying to communicate as much as they are?
Maybe there’s no need to talk or socialize anymore? The results directly show the boss what’s going on. Because some people quietly do their work and turn events to their advantage. If there’s any favoritism above, I’d say to watch out for such subtle games.
Could you be overanalyzing the situation? Maybe for the boss, it’s simply a matter of personal preference: they liked you, trusted you, and found it easy to work with you. Don’t delve too much into whether there’s a connection outside of work or if there’s a game being played, as that will just stress you out more.