Someone in a position of authority in an environment openly said, 'When hiring female employees, we need to check if they're newly married or if they will have children.' They portrayed this as if it were a very normal business consideration. Some of the men at the table agreed, and I was too angry to speak. Do you think this is really the harsh reality of the market, or is it just blatant misogyny?
They say it so casually that the real problem lies there. As if they're not hiring female employees but rather purchasing devices that will cause issues in the future. I wouldn't even want to sit at the same table with a boss who talks like that.
Misogyny.
The market is ruthless, yes, but the employer also has to account for expenses. If a person has a team of 5 and one is missing for 6 months, who will they replace them with? Sometimes, from an emotional perspective, it just doesn't work.
This isn’t about being emotional; it’s about recognizing the humanity in people. If you see your employees merely as machines, then every entitlement becomes a cost to you. Maternity leave and sick leave are part of the system.
I'm not a lawyer, but I have seen such files while working in the office; not hiring based on pregnancy potential can become a subject of discrimination claims. The problem is that employers usually don't state this in writing, they just say 'the profile isn't suitable' and move on. That's why evidence and correspondence are important.
I was also most bothered by the comfort of those at the table. The guy didn't even say this secretly; everyone listened as if we were talking about the weather. I wondered if I was the only one losing my mind 🥲
When I returned to work after giving birth, my boss said to me, 'I wish you had waited a little longer to have a child.' I still get angry when I think about it. They want women to both work and be mothers, but they don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable about it.
Then let those who say it's a waste not get married.
You don't have to immediately engage in a debate when you hear such remarks, but when you ask, 'how do you relate this to the candidate's qualifications?' they typically fall apart. Because the answer itself comes off as discriminatory.
And those same bosses share flower-filled posts on Mother's Day. On Monday, they're afraid of the female employees getting pregnant, but on Sunday, they say mothers are sacred. It's really consistent.
The issue here is not just a women's issue, it's also a workers' rights issue. In the boss's eyes, everyone is a potential loss: women get pregnant, men go to the army, the elderly become ill, and the young quit their jobs. The end result of this mentality is to deny rights to anyone.
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