Today, during a meeting at work, my boss leaned in unnecessarily while asking me something and almost whispered in my ear. Everyone in the room was present, but nobody said anything or acted as if they noticed. I find these kinds of actions disturbing, but the other female employees either seem used to it or donât care. Do you think this is a clear boundary violation, or am I overreacting?
I think youâre being a bit too sensitive. He might have leaned in to ask a question, maybe he wanted to hear you better. Itâs not right to immediately look for bad intentions. Besides, he did it in front of everyone, if there were any bad intentions, he wouldnât have done it so openly.
In my old workplace, the managerâs gaze was always on me, it made me uncomfortable, but no one said anything. Over time, I started to doubt myself, I even thought, maybe Iâm being too uptight. But then I left, and once I got out of that pressure, I realized it wasnât actually normal. Seriously, I understand you.
Is this the first time heâs doing it? Because I had a friend who said about his boss, âEvery morning somehow it ends up on my desk.â Maybe you have a recurring situation too.
@laf_alintilayan actually this isnât the first time, but itâs the first time it got this close. It seemed like they were getting too close when talking before, but it wasnât so obvious.
What kind of logic is this, is there really such a thing as âif they did it in front of everyone, there can be no bad intentionsâ? @ters_kose Are you serious? The harassment you mentioned often happens right before peopleâs eyes so that no one can say anything.
The border violation is obvious. It already depends on whether youâre bothered by it or not. If the employees are ignoring it, it suggests theyâve either gotten used to it or are afraid, but that doesnât mean itâs normal. There needs to be an environment to express this, perhaps with HR if possible.
@beden_savunucu You say itâs HR, but is it really that easy? One word spreads, and your name gets out there as a talent scout. Plus, it doesnât seem like thereâs anything major going on; wouldnât it be better to take it a bit more calmly so that people donât get too worked up?