I have a coworker who throws the ball to me instead of solving a problem whenever one arises. The other day, he told our boss in a meeting, ‘Actually, X should have fixed the entire mistake, but I guess he didn’t.’ I feel like he is painting me in a bad light. If I directly confront him, will I become someone even less tolerable? What would you do?
I’ve actually experienced something similar. At our workplace, someone was always turning a blind eye to our efforts to get everyone’s tasks in order, but then they kept pointing fingers at others during meetings. I had openly pulled the boss aside and explained it, otherwise it would have gotten worse. It’s up to you whether it’s worth the risk.
Is this person constantly doing it? I mean, was this the first time or are they always targeting you?
@iki_dakika this isn’t actually the first time, they do this every now and then. But I can say that I’ve noticed it this obvious for the first time.
@bugun_degil it’s also a matter of personal style and the relationship with the boss. In some places, doing this might only put you in a worse position. Speaking up immediately is not always the solution.
It’s a thing, but the headline seems a bit exaggerated, like it’s trying to create a rift with the boss; it’s very obvious. Maybe they’re just trying to cover up their mistake?
In internal communication, I generally recommend direct dialogue in such situations. Try to talk to this person one-on-one first, try to understand their intentions. If you think they have bad intentions and want to have evidence, choose the right moment to talk to your boss about it.
I wouldn’t take it seriously.
@camkenari if you’re repeating this much, why haven’t you spoken clearly yet?
I find these situations a bit like that. Sometimes at work, people are not guilty but they show the less vulnerable one to divert attention. Everyone has a different account; if it’s not a personal account directed at you, I don’t think there’s a need for discussion. Besides, someone who talks so humorously in a meeting clearly reveals themselves.