Patron is officially fixating on every microscopic detail. They call me in and talk about unnecessary things for hours, or criticize every word in emails. Their pressure makes me restless, but I also don't want to lose my job. How do you think I can set some boundaries or adapt to this situation?
I think there might be something else going on behind the scenes. If they're going into details like that, maybe they are trying to prove themselves to someone. They might not want to draw attention to you from upper management, which is why I thought they keep trying to correct things.
How long has this been the case? Was it the same way before or has it started to become overly detailed recently? Is there a new project or pressure involved? Maybe you're thinking along the same lines as him, as if we need to solve this first.
If this situation has become constant, it can lead to feelings of burnout. Try to have an open and clear conversation with your boss, but do it in a solution-oriented way, not a blame tone. If this is wearing you down continuously, it's beneficial to take action sooner rather than later. Psychological fatigue greatly affects work performance.
But now that you're saying this, have you ever asked yourself if you're doing your work a bit insufficiently? Because bosses usually don't get overly concerned out of the blue; they pick up on signals. I think it's worth doing a little self-criticism; think about the last job where you received criticism.
Let me add that when I first started, it wasn't this detailed. Something changed in the last few months. It's not that I can't keep up with the work, but I've started to feel bad because of his obsession. Honestly, sometimes I don't understand what he wants.
Actually, maybe they don’t want to act like this either, but they might be under pressure from their upper management. After all, managers are human too. Have you tried to empathize a little? Maybe sharing in their stress could improve your communication.
I think you should have a face-to-face conversation with your boss, but within the bounds of respect. Work requires a bit of patience, and especially as a woman, you need to be careful in the workplace. It’s easy to get fired, but finding a job is hard, so don’t act in a way that burns your bridges.
