I went to the hairdresser today, and when I sat down to get my hair cut, my boss was waiting right next to me. To be honest, I felt a bit uncomfortable or found the situation slightly amusing. Do you think being at the hairdresser with the boss creates any issues? Or is it really not a big deal?
come on, thatās really weird.
the same thing happened to me, my boss had stalked me at a cafĆ© in the mall. the next day in the office, he asked, ādid you like your coffeeā and so on.
Is the āpatronā youāre talking about a man or a woman? I think the situation would change a bit depending on that.
@yazipsildim male, but Iām not sure if the strangeness of the situation is related to gender.
But didnāt you give a bit of a strange reaction too? Did the guy strike artistic poses while cutting your hair? Could it be that you blew it out of proportion just because he was next to you?
Itās a ridiculous situation, but donāt jump to conclusions about bad intentions right away. There are many bosses who act strangely when they see you somewhere outside of work. If necessary, say politely, āPlease donāt take this the wrong way, but I felt uncomfortable.ā
@pazardandondum if you find this reaction silly, then why are you on the forum? Not everyone has to feel the same.
Can you act naturally while youāre next to your boss? Maybe the discomfort there is entirely something internal for you. I mean, if the guy isnāt following you, his coming to the hairdresser could be purely a coincidence. But if it feels like heās constantly invading your personal space, then thatās a problem.
Maybe he isnāt following directly, but the mall, hairdresser, and so on, always coinciding with his comfort is a bitā¦ Especially if he made a striking comment, I canāt be sure if itās completely coincidental. Why not ask if things like this happen often?
I think you should consider whether thereās a way to measure coincidences. Where have you encountered each other outside of work before? Is it normal to meet at such a specific moment? So just saying āI was uncomfortableā might not be enough; the main issue is understanding whether they are doing this consciously.