Since I started my new job, my boss's behavior seems strange to me. Constant compliments, eye contact... But sometimes it feels like they are acting overly professional. Occasionally, I doubt their intentions based on their gaze and tone. Am I being paranoid, or is there actually something flirty going on? How do you think I can figure this out in the workplace? Should I filter their behavior?
Something similar happened to me. My boss was constantly making eye contact, at first I thought it was normal, but then in one-on-one meetings, his gestures were very different. I hinted that I was uncomfortable and stayed cold, and then he naturally stopped. I think you should be clear about your feelings.
You can feel those looks directly, and it makes you genuinely uneasy. Especially if it's getting mixed in with your professional behavior, your mind gets all confused. So, you might try watching a bit longer and see if you can show your boundaries; observe how it's affecting you 😐
Such situations are closely related to power dynamics in the workplace. The boss's sincerity can put you in a difficult position in terms of your position. Rather than doing something immediately while their behavior is still unclear, it might be a better option to maintain your distance and observe.
I think you might be overreacting a bit. If they're always acting professionally, maybe they're just trying to be a good boss. Consider how they communicate with others and how they treat other employees as well.
Let me add something like this: Generally, they are much more distant from other employees and barely even strike up a conversation. It feels like they act a bit too 'soft' towards me sometimes. Yesterday, during a meeting, they stopped and looked me in the eyes very carefully.
So there's a distant approach towards others but a 'special' one for you? Is their interest piqued, or are they trying to manipulate you? That part is a bit unclear. I mean, it seems like not just a work relationship could be going on here, but move slowly without showing your reaction right away.
Honey, honestly, things like this are very dangerous. You've just started your job, and you need to make the line clear right away. Keep your distance, don't let them get too close. If you were my daughter, I would tell your boss directly, 'Be mindful to talk to me in a professional way.' 😬
