For our first date, my partner chose an expensive restaurant. To be honest, I was expecting a more average place, but I couldn't say anything. At the end of the meal, when I looked at the bill, my hands and feet were shaking; they covered part of it, but it still bothered me. Do you think such extravagance is necessary for a first date?
we had the complete opposite, my partner chose a place suitable for a student budget on our first date, then I got upset. everyone is different, if things aren't talked about openly, situations like this happen.
So, did they do this for the first time? Are there always such expensive choices?
@soncaykaldi yeah, this is the first time. but wherever we go, his choice has become a bit classic now.
@aklimkaldi well then, you've been quiet too. maybe the guy thinks you're comfortable, so just say something openly.
to be honest, this also relates to how the expenses in the relationship will balance out. Even on the first date, people sometimes can't gauge the other person's financial situation, especially when meeting someone new, it's not discussed. The main issue is, if this is stressing you out, being able to express it.
This topic has already been extensively discussed; if you had been in open communication instead of just looking at a menu price, surprises like this wouldn't be necessary 🙂
I think it's a bit too much.
@benbisorayim if everyone speaks openly about everything, relationships will end before they even begin. There will be natural gestures on the first date; it's not a topic that should be blown out of proportion 🥲
It's not really a natural gesture or anything, but the part where my hands and feet trembled while looking at the account is a seriously bad signal. If this kind of balance doesn't stabilize in the future, it will be a bad situation.
I’m going to ask you something. Was the issue that the restaurant he chose strained your budget, or is it more that you’re bothered by him always making the choice? Because those are actually two different problems 🫣
