My partner asked me for a loan last week, saying that their business wasn't going well. Honestly, I was surprised because this has never happened before. We've only been together for a few months; if I give the money, will I get it back? If I don't give it, will they be hurt? What do you think about this?
I once lent money to my girlfriend too, and back then my boyfriend wanted 5000 TL to be honest. I really couldn't get it back, on top of that we broke up and all. I don't think such things are right at the beginning of a relationship. I’d say be careful 🤭
Setting boundaries is very important, especially if you're just starting out. In my opinion, being in a relationship means, to some extent, looking out for each other, but financial matters can be risky. First, look at your own financial situation; if you can give without feeling uncomfortable, then maybe it can be discussed.
I mean, to be honest, we also need to consider this: what if he really is in a tough spot? The guy is saying that things are bad for him; if he weren't struggling, why would he come to you asking for money? Not giving it, in my opinion, would damage the relationship.
I also want to add that it's not a huge amount, actually, just something around 2000 TL. But my expenses are really high right now. They said they would pay me back, but I'm not feeling at ease. It feels like things are going to get complicated 🥲
The amount you're talking about, 2000 TL, isn't small; you should definitely consider your own budget first. If you can give it, make sure to get something in writing. For example, ask them to send a message saying 'it will be paid back on this date' to see that they are serious.
