I've decided to go on a diet, but my boyfriend keeps bringing sweets and pizzas. There's no need for him to insist; I can't resist when I see them. Could he be doing this on purpose? Or is it just a way of showing affection? Am I thinking about this the wrong way?
I experienced a similar situation. My spouse was constantly ordering takeout while I was on a diet, and I felt like I was missing out. Then I talked openly and realized that their intention wasn’t bad, but that they were showing their love through food. Maybe your partner thinks the same way.
My ex was like this too. At first, I thought it was a sign of interest, but then I realized that she was unconsciously trying to control me. She confessed that she felt strange when I stuck to my diet 😬
Honestly, it seems like you're placing a lot of blame on your partner here. If you can't say no either, it feels like you're taking the easy way out. As an adult, you need to strengthen your will a bit; don't look for everything in the other person.
In subconscious motivations, generally two things occur: either the other party perceives change as a threat, or they develop an unconscious way of providing support. Both can happen without awareness. Starting a clear and non-accusatory conversation will clarify the situation.
Let me make an update: I think he might be doing it on purpose because it has increased significantly in the last week. For example, he brings pizza and says, 'how about a slice?' He even once said, 'what's going to happen to the diet, just chill a bit.' Do you think this is a clue? 😳
You wake up in the morning starting your diet, then in the evening when you find that pizza in front of you, it really throws you off. I understand you, it's a really tough feeling. But maybe by talking about it, you can say 'don't bring this or that' and set your boundaries, because it can be hard otherwise.
Ayyy I have a friend like that too. Whenever I start a diet, he immediately brings me chocolate croissants. But I think it totally depends on how you react. I need to take a serious stance; I think you should try having a clear conversation too.
Traditionally, when you look at the male-female relationship, it’s not nice for the man to sabotage like this, but you shouldn't have to try so hard for him to accept you the way you want. If you’re uncomfortable, express your opinion; otherwise, this will just keep going on.
Honey, I think this is a health issue. You're embarking on a journey together, but it needs support right here. Have this conversation openly. If he doesn't realize it, then she should find someone who pays more attention to such things. Health is no joking matter 😂
