My girlfriend is still in touch with her friends from an old series she used to act in. But recently she said she has been going to the set often, the show is still going on but she’s not part of that cast. Do you think this is just friendship or is there something interesting going on? Should I ask her or should I trust her?
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6I’ve experienced something similar; I was in too much contact with my old workplace. My boyfriend at the time was uncomfortable with it, but for me, it was just casual chat. I think you should ask your partner calmly and directly. Otherwise, a person feels like they’re being blamed.
Let’s be clear: if someone is doing something that will shake or make you question your trust, the problem lies not with you but with them. Friendship is important, but respecting personal space is crucial. If your partner spends this much time with you without talking to you about it, it feels a bit like a boundary violation.
But I want to say something, you’ve set up quite a bit, haven’t you? What’s wrong with still being in touch with someone from your own business circle? I think trust is very clear; otherwise, we would suffocate the relationship by questioning it.
Try to understand whether repeatedly being in a professional environment comes from personal connections or some other reason. If this is a professional communication, you wouldn’t want to misunderstand. But transparency is essential. Did you ask exactly what they’re doing on set?
By the way, the topic I wanted to bring up was this: even if he casually mentions things, he doesn’t give details unless asked. For example, the other day, he said, ‘we had coffee with friends after the shoot,’ but I have no information about those people. I’m not sure who he’s hanging out with. Do you think this is normal? 
So, who are the friends from the series, do you know any of them? Or is there another reason for being on set, maybe a connection to her old show or something? She might have drawn attention for visiting so often, ask for details.