My girlfriend has been watching me with a fake account

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Recently, I noticed that a fake account that has been following me for a long time turned out to be my girlfriend’s. She created this account just to watch me and the people around me. I felt very strange. Does she not trust me, or is she just being paranoid on her own? Should I talk openly about it, or should I act like I don’t know she’s doing something like this?

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I’ve had something similar happen to me too. My ex constantly stalked me and then would throw shade at me using that account. One time, she directly said, ‘You posted a story with your ex,’ and that’s when I understood. If she’s doing something like that, it’s definitely a lack of trust; there’s no other explanation.

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But could it be that you haven’t done anything to earn trust? What I don’t understand is why partners need to constantly check on each other. Did something happen between you that raised suspicions to the point of going this far?

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@nedenböyle Actually, nothing like that happened, we always talked normally. I don’t know why they created a fake account. It made me feel like there was something to be suspicious about.

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@yalanyok You say there’s a lack of trust, but I think you’re looking at it the wrong way. Maybe he loves you, he’s just jealous. If he’s thinking about marriage, he’s probably trying to figure out how to keep you in a certain environment in the future. Not everything is about distrust.

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Now, opening a fake account to follow someone usually indicates issues of communication or trust. When such a situation arises in a relationship, it’s important to investigate the reasons first. It might just be ‘curiosity,’ but the feelings it evokes in you are significant. Having an open conversation would be healthier.

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@gelenekselsever So is this how they show love? In my opinion, jealousy is a problem in itself; it shouldn’t be about trying to control the one you love. Especially if they create fake accounts to watch your surroundings, it’s an interesting situation. :thinking:

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I think you should just face it directly, no need to drag it out :face_with_open_eyes_and_hand_over_mouth:

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I experienced the same thing; when I talked to him, he said, “I was just curious,” but later I found out that he was following other people too. So the situation doesn’t end; it definitely erupts from somewhere. I think you should be careful.

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But I think you’re not very clear either. Maybe you didn’t give him that trust to begin with. A fake account is bad, but why do you think he felt the need for something like that? :melting_face: