Whenever my partner and I have a fight, they stay silent for days, and I try to make things right, but I'm tired of it. It feels like running away instead of solving things. Do you think this is normal, or is it hard to maintain a relationship this way? Am I just overthinking, or should I suggest that we talk about it?
Honey, disagreements happen in every relationship, but I don't know about staying mad for days... Sometimes you just need to apologize and mend hearts. If it's like this now, what will happen when you get married? Is running away the solution? 🤷♀️
My spouse would also withdraw for hours after an argument; we said, "it will get better over time," but honestly, it's the same. You need to establish this way of communicating early on. Otherwise, you will struggle a lot.
Honestly, you should take care of yourself a bit too. My ex used to say, 'you're always yelling.' Now I see their point. Maybe you're being a bit pushy as well?
I think there's something else going on here. What does he mean when he says, 'There's no problem, I just need a little time'? Maybe there's something bothering him that he can't express.
Right now, your partner is actually refusing to even discuss this topic with you. I mean, in the end, a relationship is hard work; you can't carry the burden alone. Silence can also be a form of exercising power. 🫠
This type of behavior usually indicates an 'avoidance' style. They may prefer to stretch out the resolution over time rather than finding a solution right away, but this could affect trust in the relationship in the long run. Speaking with a relationship counselor could be beneficial.
Let me add this: actually, I don't shout while arguing or anything like that. I have a strong desire to resolve things right after the discussion. However, they go completely silent when they don't want to talk. Anyway, I said patience, but I'm really struggling.
But what does "I need some time" even mean? My partner once said it, and it turned out everything was already over in their mind. I mean, to be honest, it feels like there's always something hidden behind that phrase 😐
Here's the thing, men generally aren’t solution-oriented after an argument. We tend to want to calm down and think things over more. It’s not bad intention, but it can be misunderstood. If you want, talk in a way that sets when you’ll return.
