We ordered takeout last night. While I wanted something light, I specifically said I wanted a salad. My boyfriend, while placing the order, jokingly said, “Don’t overdo it, how many bites are you really going to eat?” I couldn’t tell if it was a joke or not, and I felt a bit upset. Do you think he’s justified in acting that way, or did I overreact?
I think you’ve blown it a bit out of proportion. Getting offended just because they asked how many bites you’re taking… I mean, they probably joked about it; people say all sorts of things in a relationship.
Is such teasing conversation normal among you, or is this the first time?
@iki_dakika it’s actually not the first time. Sometimes they say things like this at the dinner table, but it usually comes off as a joke… so I’m not entirely sure.
Nah, I think it’s really being underestimated. If a behavior keeps repeating, it can’t be considered a joke anymore.
exactly, my ex used to do something similar to me. those slightly mocking conversations turned into overstepping once the business grew. sort these things out early.
but look, you’ve written ‘salad request’ in the title, but the issue isn’t salad, it’s the mockery. You could have been clearer about the situation 
Using nutrition as an excuse to belittle the other person can actually create critical issues in many relationships. Especially if there are sensitivities related to body image, such words can be quite disturbing. I would say to clearly define your boundaries.
That’s not acceptable. Speak clearly, ask for clarity.