My girlfriend wants to go on vacation with her family, do you think it's normal?

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Girls, my boyfriend said he wants to spend a week during the summer vacation with both his family and me. He’ll first go on vacation with his family and then go on a separate trip with me. I don’t know, but I feel weird; I think it’s because he’s spending so little time with me, and his strong attachment to his family seems a bit strange, right? What do you think, am I overthinking it?

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I had a similar situation; my girlfriend would always be tired when she met up with me after returning from a family vacation. I was really annoyed, but then I thought about it—it’s natural, she doesn’t choose her family. During that time, I took some time for myself and got busy with other things, and I felt relieved.

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I think this is a bit of a personal space issue. If your girlfriend gives the impression of being overly dependent on her family, you might encounter this situation on a larger scale in the future. On the other hand, wanting to spend time with her family can also be healthy. What matters here is how good you feel about yourself.

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I think the problem is with you here. The guy is making separate plans with both his family and you, which isn’t a bad thing. If you find his affection for his family troubling, I suggest you examine your own jealousy. It seems a bit like a mood swing.

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Let me give you a bit more detail, his family is very controlling and always checking in on him. That’s why I felt like maybe I was getting less time with him. I’m not sure if being so attached to your family is normal. My girlfriends say “there might be issues later on,” and it’s confusing me :smiling_face_with_tear:

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So, your friends said “a man who is attached to his family causes trouble”. What kind of generalization is that? Is there really a rule that says every man who is close to his family is a problem? Do people have to cut ties with their families? I don’t get it. :woman_shrugging:

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It was the same for me, his family would constantly call during holidays, and they would never leave the WhatsApp groups. It got better over time; I clearly said, “I need a bit of my own space.” We worked it out by talking it through, I recommend it :thinking: