The other day we went to the beach and I was having a great time with my girlfriend. She took a close photo of me, but the blemishes on my face were really noticeable. In that moment, without saying anything, she deleted the photo. Normally, I try to be confident in myself, but this action affected me quite a bit. Do you think I might be overreacting to this?
I think it seems like he's been sensitive. He might have thought you didn't look good and didn't want to hurt your feelings. It doesn't seem like there's anything that should affect you in this. I've experienced something similar among friends because someone directly told me, "I couldn't say you didn't look good." So, even if he has some intention, I don't think it's a negative one.
So, after deleting it, did he say anything else? I mean, did he say the part about 'I deleted it because I thought you wouldn’t look great'? Did he stop and think about it, or should we interpret it as a reflexive action?
@kahvebitmeden at that moment, she just deleted it, and a few minutes later when I asked why she deleted it, she said, 'I deleted it because you wouldn't look good.' But she said it while looking directly at me, you know? 🤦♀️
@makarnaoncesi I don't think it's about sensitivity, it's too direct. In these situations, a person usually says something like, 'Do you want the photo, you decide.' It's not up to anyone to decide to delete. I would definitely keep it.
In such situations, we need to turn a bit towards our own perception. What kind of sensitivity is related to self-confidence? Even if your partner does this completely with good intentions, a crack in your self-confidence may create this feeling. It's important to speak openly in a relationship. If you had said at that moment, 'Let me decide,' you would have ensured that an open dialogue could be established in a similar situation in the future.
It feels like a stranger deleted it instead of your lover reading the question. Actually, one should ask, 'Did they show you the photo at that moment?' I wonder if they deleted it directly based on their own thoughts.
I think you've exaggerated it a bit 😬
