I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years, and recently she threw a fit because I didn’t share our cafe meetup in my story. I just don’t want to put every special moment on social media; it feels like it takes away the magic. But she says, ‘Look, those who don’t share are always hiding something.’ What do you think, does not sharing really raise suspicions?
I think you’re right, you don’t have to share every moment. Your relationship with your partner is something between the two of you. I’ve been through this too; we were sitting in a café, and because I didn’t share, they acted like we were on bad terms. Honestly, it’s ridiculous, not everyone needs to know everything.
The same thing happened in our friend group. A girl got into an argument with her boyfriend because she wouldn’t share her food, and the guy was like, ‘Why are you hiding it?’ To be honest, my opinion is that the moments that aren’t shared are more valuable because they’re not flaunted. You really do seem to be right.
But there’s also this, my daughter. Your boyfriend might feel excluded if he’s not being shared. For example, how many times have you posted a photo with him? Are you not sharing at all? If you’re not sharing, he might start to think suspiciously, I would say that’s a normal reaction.
This actually comes down to a matter of trust. Mutual consent is important. No one should feel obligated to share something on social media. But this perception of ‘you’re hiding something’ might stem from a past experience. Perhaps you have different perspectives on commitment; it would be good to talk about it.
Let me update you: there were moments I didn’t share, but we already have photos together. I even have 2 old posts of us in my profile. I’m just against putting up every outing. But she still says, ‘everyone understands, why am I being left out?’ Clearly, it has turned into an important issue.
Yeah, actually everyone is on their own trip. I had an ex who used to say share everything. I shared for a while, but what happened? We broke up. Now when I look back, I think it was unnecessary. What’s the point of constantly posting on stories, who cares? I think this social media obsession really wears you out, you’re right at some point.
Well, let me put it straight, not sharing sometimes feels really strange. At least, isn’t there a story or a post a few times a year? Don’t take it too personally, but we live in an open society, and people naturally think about these things. They would ask, ‘What are you missing?’