I had a friend who I was quite close to, and we produce content in the same industry. I shared my ideas, explained my methods, and even taught him about the tools I use. So what happened? He made content very similar to mine and attracted followers from my audience. He basically took advantage of me. Should I stay silent and try new approaches, or should I confront him seriously and talk openly? Do you think karma will come into play?
I experienced the same thing; it really broke my heart during that time. I had told a close friend about a project I was working on, and then they presented the same idea to me. I spoke openly and expressed my discomfort, but of course, they denied it. Still, I felt relieved; I couldn’t stay silent and bottle it up.
I’ve had something similar happen to me too. It’s really bad when someone you share ideas with leaves you hanging like that. But to be honest, no matter how angry I was, I focused on my path and completely erased that person from my life. People like that always find a way to impact you negatively.
So here’s the thing, when you think about both sides, maybe they also took this path to learn more? I mean, not just to deliberately crush you, but perhaps they were trying to find their own way? But of course, this doesn’t change the situation on your side; you’re right, it’s a tough situation.
I focus on behavior here: if there is no consent in sharing, exploitation of labor arises. People who cannot set boundaries also instrumentalize their friendships. This is not an individual but a systemic issue, so you should openly express your discomfort and establish boundaries.
In such situations, open communication is always recommended. If there is a potential loss of legal rights (like copyright), I would suggest consulting an expert. However, if there is an emotional bond fundamentally, seeking a solution through conversation can be a healthy starting point.
Let me add this too, whenever he spoke to me, he always said things like ‘great idea’, ‘you’re amazing at this’, and so on. That’s why I might have been so surprised. Now that I think about it, I was too trusting, but I really didn’t expect him to just ‘copy-paste’ without asking.
I understand that you’re angry, but have you thought about this? Maybe they think that by using your path, they’re actually enhancing their own skills. Is it exactly the same content, or is there a point where they create a difference? What are the comments like from the people in your audience?
Let’s be honest, people are now seeking benefits even from relationships and friendships. Such things used to be considered more shameful. If someone can’t find their own way without relying on others, it’s clear that these kinds of people will cause trouble in the long run. I suggest you keep your distance.