Is my therapist stuck in the past, or am I just not understanding?

I swear something similar happened to me in therapy too, at one point she said, "you formed your core beliefs in childhood," or something like that. But then she always connected the topic to today’s anxieties. I think constantly going back to the past is to find a solution for the future; I would say try to be patient.

I think if there's no real issue related to the past, the therapist might be unnecessarily prolonging things. It's been 3 months, and if they're still only talking about childhood and so on, it seems like the topic hasn't really connected to the current issues. Maybe it would be clearer if you directly brought it up and asked, 'Can we focus on the current problems?'

Childhood issues are often revisited in therapy because the traumas or learned behaviors from that time can affect current anxieties. The goal is not necessarily to dig into the past, but to understand the reasons for your current problems. The therapist needs to connect this, otherwise, I think you need to talk.

Let me add that, at the beginning of therapy, I clearly stated why I came. I said, 'My current anxieties, uncertainties related to work and my relationship,' but we keep going back to childhood. To be honest, I don't understand therapy well enough to question this, which is why I feel confused.

But now, maybe there won't be any progress unless you trust the therapist and let yourself go. I think you're being a bit impatient. Expecting a solution in 3 months is very optimistic; this takes time. However, if you feel something is going wrong, you have the right to try another therapist, of course.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than feelings. It would be safer to store any messages, payments, conversations, etc., and then proceed with a calm mind.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than emotions. It would be safer to keep any messages, payments, conversations, etc., and then take steps with a calm mind.

Here, boundaries and records seem more important than feelings. It would be safer to keep everything — messages, payments, conversations — and then take action calmly.