We haven’t had the wedding yet, but my fiancé has been acting very strange for a while. Yesterday, he finally told me that he had talked to his mother and wants to give some of the gold that will be used at the wedding to them. It turns out his family has some debts and they need to relieve themselves a bit. Honestly, the expenses we calculated for the wedding were dependent on this gold, and I’m not sure how we’ll manage if some of it goes away. I don’t want to say anything to his family, but this has become such an unnecessary stress. How can I find a solution in this situation?
Your fiancée discussed this with her mother and made a decision, but when did you get involved? Did they just bring you the end result directly? Or did they say something beforehand? Very strange 
Something similar happened at my wedding, too. My spouse wanted to give some bracelets to her family to take out a loan. But at that moment, I spoke openly, saying that wedding gifts belong to the couple. After all, they are not the ones paying off our debts, and I think you should make that clear.
@sorgulayan_kız Actually, I felt that she was hiding something before, but she didn’t share any details. I said we should talk to my mom and stuff, and she said, ‘they won’t interfere now.’ Now it feels like she’s imposing this decision 
@evli_kadın But you want to exclude the family from the equation. Marriage brings families together, it’s not just about the couple. In a situation where your fiancé’s family is in trouble, providing financial support seems normal to me. The wedding can be postponed.
I think the thing to do here is this: as a fiancée, you both should create a transparent budget. How much of the gold will go to your fiancé’s family, how much will be left for you, and how much is available? With this calculation, you can see how much support you can provide him. But make sure to write it down; otherwise, it could lead to a fight.
@aileci_biri I’m sorry, but paying off debts shouldn’t fall on the bride’s side in a marriage engagement. If everyone takes on burdens just because we’re uniting families, we won’t get through life. This responsibility belongs to her family.
If you ask me, you should directly tell the situation to her mother. There’s no need for your fiancée to leave you hanging. You can gently explain that you gathered the wedding expenses with their help and mention that you might have a hard time managing support right now 