Iāve lost quite a bit of weight in the last 5 months, and honestly, Iām more at peace with myself now. But my mom keeps saying things like, āHave you lost too much weight? You look like a twig.ā It really gets me down. Instead of supporting me, why is she behaving like this? Should I be angry or just ignore it?
Maybe she isnāt doing this maliciously, but when a personās heart is broken, they start to question their own worth; I understand you. Iāve gone through similar things with my mom in the past. When I lost weight, my face got a bit drawn, and she kept saying, āYou look sick.ā Just say directly that youāre uncomfortable; no need to beat around the bush.
I think even though mothers say things like this jokingly sometimes, there might be a worry behind it. Are they concerned about your health because youāve lost weight, or are they just missing the way you used to look? Maybe youāll understand it more clearly when you ask the reason, as comments like āHave you lost too much weight?ā usually come from things they are obsessed with.
You certainly love your mom, but instead
If we approach this situation from the perspective of family dynamics, your mother may have been unsettled by the speed or sharpness of your changes. Parentsā fears of losing control sometimes manifest through minor criticisms. Therefore, I suggest establishing clear communication to create not only a physical but also an emotional connection. Speak clearly, but gently.
Iāve noticed this: my mom seems to be focused not on my weight loss, but rather on how persistent Iāve been. She might be getting annoyed with me constantly reducing my food portions. Iāll try to talk without thinking and discussing, just like you suggested.
When you donāt get support in the weight loss process, it really crushes your morale. There was a time when I stopped walking every morning and evening because everyone said, āYouāre wasting your time.ā Later, I regretted it. So no matter what your mom says, donāt belittle the effort youāve put into this process. If youāve become rock solid and they still comment, theyāre probably just jealous.