The wedding date is three weeks away, but my girlfriend somehow got in touch with her ex. Everyone is saying “forget the past,” but a voice inside me is telling me that the situation is not quite normal. What do you think I should do in this situation?
My ex also sent a message to his ex during wedding week, saying something like ‘best wishes’ and so on. Then I found out that he actually intended to meet up. I would be careful if I were you; it could be troublesome.
Why did they get in touch with their ex? Did you ask them directly? If you didn’t, it’s a pretty vague situation.
@yazipsildim I asked, they said, ‘they wrote suddenly, there’s nothing.’ But it still feels strange.
If it still seems strange, it’s better to confront it earlier rather than risking the wedding. There are three weeks left; if he’s still saying ‘nothing is wrong,’ you’ll either swallow your feelings and carry on, or you’ll take a clear stance.
Three weeks left and you’re still “greeting” the ex? Come on. No, did you at least make them a witness at your wedding?
Before such an important date, the mixing of old relationships usually points to things like emotional release and subconscious conflicts. It’s best to talk openly with your partner, but don’t suppress your doubts; be clear.
No way, man, I’m not going to that wedding.
“Suddenly wrote, there’s nothing” do you really think that’s an explanation? I mean, the event itself is strange already, and the explanation’s just up in the air. A voice inside me says there’s something else going on here.
The part about “suddenly writing” also seemed weak to me, but you all immediately tied it to a bad scenario. Maybe there’s an unresolved issue with an ex, maybe he remembered something, who knows. I think it’s silly to jump to a definite conclusion without discussing the content and timing of this message in more detail. Did you talk about exactly what he wrote and what response he got?
As much as it’s important why the ex-partner wrote, I think it’s also important why your partner didn’t share this directly and openly. Did you learn it first, or did they tell you? Because a reluctant explanation can reveal a lot.
The reason for this ex’s writing is still unclear, sure, but what I’m stuck on is something else: With your partner’s feelings about themselves bothering you so much before the wedding, why do you seem to be forced to trust them so much? How many times did you ask, how many times did they say “it’s nothing,” for example? I mean, are you the only one who should be questioning things?
If they just say “there’s nothing” and even get defensive, I think that’s where a problem already starts. Normally, in such a situation, a person would provide details and explain to reassure their partner. Has he ever offered a solution up to now, or are you the one who’s always pushing?