I've been thinking about marrying my girlfriend, whom I've been with for a while, and I told my mom about it. However, my mom literally yelled, 'What marriage at your age!' Now what should I do? I had emotionally prepared for this, but her reaction seriously affected me.
I've been through something similar; my mom would never approve. But I pushed through, and I was right in the process. I think your mom needs to get used to it over time; otherwise, she'll always get hung up on it in her life 😂
How old are you? It's strange for your mom to shout "you're young," are you around 18 or something?
@pazardandondum I'm 23 years old. My girlfriend is 25. So we're not really that young.
@soncaykaldi yeah, but not everyone has the same family, we can't know how you deal with your mother. Honestly, it's not easy to completely overlook family.
As a family therapist, I can say that your mother's reaction is completely emotional and based on worry. When she says you are young, it actually relates to her thinking that you made this decision hastily. Try to calmly explain how much you have thought about it, so this doesn't turn into a standoff.
@iki_dakika but not everyone is in a state to talk rationally. some families don't give up on seeing themselves as right. I think you shouldn't get involved, just keep going as you know 🤷♀️
getting married is a bit early for you, your mom is right.
This title is quite general, isn't it? Is your mother reacting like this for the first time? Or has she always been dominant? It would be clearer if understood from those angles.
Whether they are dominant or just reacting excessively in this case is important. Because if this is always the case, the issue may not be your decision, but rather a fear of losing control. Saying you are young is just an excuse in that situation 😅
The final decision is yours, but there is something to consider: Your mother's reaction of saying "you're young" may be related to her concerns about you taking an independent step rather than the marriage itself. Would she have reacted the same way if it were a different decision and not marriage? I suggest you think about this a bit.
A mother's reaction might come from her fear, but we need to discuss how much it affects your life. Sure, observe her reaction, but is she drawing a line? I mean, can this anger hold you back, for instance? That's the real issue, in my opinion. 😅
