According to my mom, my boyfriend is a manipulator, but is she right?

My ex was like that too, always doing things that made me question myself. For example, one time I said I was going out with friends, and she said things like, 'You're leaving me all alone.' At first, it seems like a small thing, but it turned pretty suffocating afterward. I think you should consider listening to your mom; someone from the outside can see it more clearly.

I experienced the same things, when my mom warned me, I thought, 'You're exaggerating.' But then I realized that I had somehow always conformed to what she said. For example, we never did the things I wanted; it was always her choices. Take a look too, who is compromising more?

A manipulator usually tries to make you feel guilty and guide you with what they say. Especially, things you call 'emotional control' often arise in discussions. If you constantly feel guilty, that is not a healthy situation. You might consider seeking help from a professional.

To be honest, it seems to me that you also struggle with maintaining your own boundaries a bit. Could it be that you're also fueling some things in the discussions? If what your mother says is true, there should be signals, but if it's not, being so dependent on her is interesting.

Let me explain a bit more, since that's the case; for example, in our discussions, he always brings up my past mistakes. Because he makes me feel guilty, I'm usually the first to apologize. My mom also noticed this. But I love him, which is why I'm confused.