My mom shared a photo of me with my girlfriend

But doesn't your mom know that you definitely

I think your mom did this to throw in a little jab. You mentioned that as a family, you still haven't fully accepted it, so I wonder if they received some pressure from outside? It seems like this kind of post wouldn't just come out of nowhere.

Actually, there are mothers who do things like this on Facebook. It's quite a classic Turkish mother thing. There might not be any hidden intention, maybe she was just proud on your behalf 🫣

It's really demoralizing when such a special boundary is violated like this. One suddenly feels like, "all control has been taken away from me." I understand your justified astonishment 🥲

There are actually two different boundaries here. One is privacy, and the other is social media habits. It's necessary to establish personal space within the family, but freedom of sharing on social media for your mom also seems to be a right. Finding the right balance is important.

Look, my girl, your mother might have looked at it from the wrong perspective saying "everyone knows after all," but I'm sure she shared it because she wants what's best for you. Talk to your mother, find out her intentions, and if you feel hurt, express it nicely so she doesn't do it again.

I swear there's something to this, how did you let your mom take that photo? I mean, you're dating someone you seriously think about, and it's clear you haven't been very clear with your mom on these matters. Maybe if you hadn't kept it so secret, she wouldn't have spread it.

I thought a bit, and I realized that I needed to have a calmer conversation with your mother. But on the other hand, I'm sad because my girlfriend took this situation a bit personally. Maybe I should have shown a more determined stance from the beginning 🥲

Oh, these Facebook moms! Just when you think, 'Let me talk about this to smooth things over,' they start with the 'But am I not a trustworthy person?' routine. I think you should clearly define your boundaries before things get serious, like with an engagement; otherwise, who knows what else might come up.