My mom keeps insisting that I should marry someone she introduced me to. When I met the guy a few times, I didn't really warm up to him. But now my mom keeps saying, 'You'll be happy with someone like that.' I'm really confused; I don't want to go against them, but my heart wants something else.
I experienced a similar situation; my mom found someone and insisted a lot. I went and saw him, but the guy was really cold. I couldn't bring myself to accept him, then someone else entered my life, and he became my current husband. I think if you don't feel it from within, you shouldn't force it.
What moms usually say tends to be true. They have years of experience; maybe they're seeing things you don't. I'd advise you not to dismiss it so quickly 🫠
@kahvebitmeden I think this "mothers know" thing is being exaggerated. After all, the person who will be living with the guy is her, not his mother. Motherhood experience is one thing, but a relationship is another 🙄
I don't think you should progress too far without being completely sure of your feelings. If there’s a no, it would be hard to go back. At the very least, try to speak openly and express that you're not into it.
So, what kind of person is Adam? Is it work, his way of speaking, or is there something specific that bothers you? 😐
@pazardandondum the guy is actually decent but seems very emotionless. Everything feels like a business plan. For instance, during conversations, he's overly formal, I don't feel any warmth.
@yazipsildim you have a point up to a certain extent, but mothers can sometimes have a more realistic perspective than the person themselves. I'm not saying they have to accept it, but maybe there's a detail they're insisting on.
if you didn't love, it won't happen. period.
It's probably an Adam cliché.
